Month: January 2019

 

Your Cup of Coffee

January 8, 2019

I often have heard friends say that they appreciate my friendship because they know they can invite me over for a cup of coffee and I will not judge how their home looks.  What a great compliment that is.  I remember having the opposite feeling when I was first beginning the socialization of stay at home motherhood.  I felt like when people came over, they pointed out how I could improve my home based on their ideals.  A cup of coffee became a breakout session for how I could improve my life.  Not what I was looking for when I invited them for coffee.

I realized as I grew older that what was lacking in those coffee sessions was my confidence with myself and my home.  I did not love my home, so I wasn’t confident when people were in it, messy or not.  That lack of confidence welcomed their critiques of what could be changed instead of being proud of what I able was to achieve for the day, which may have been simply to brew that pot of coffee.

As the years went by, I began looking at my home through my own lens and began to ask myself what makes me and my family comfortable.  What makes my home inviting to us to have coffee in.  I slowly began to make changes that represented myself and the things that bring me and my family joy.  While I appreciated the critique of others and often took suggestions, my home began to transform into a place where I wanted to have a cup of coffee.

It is so important to find both friends that accept you for who you are and to create a home that you are proud to brew coffee in.  A home that will make you comfortable and in turn give you confidence to make others feel comfortable.  Your home is your sanctuary, make it feel like yours.  Your friends are your people, love the ones that accept you and invite them over to your sanctuary for a cup of your coffee.